Dear Massi, I went out with this girl that my cousin set me up with.

I did look up pictures of her on Facebook but they were all taken using Snapchat filters so I couldn’t really tell what she looked like. 

When I got to the restaurant, I saw her and honestly found her really unattractive.

I thought I would be honest with her and I told her there was no chemistry so there’s no point in continuing with the date.
She seemed okay with it at the time and even thanked me for being honest and not wasting her time.

A week later though she sent me a message with a list of things detailing how much getting ready for the date had cost her.

She said that for the date she had gone for a waxing 
appointment, had her hair coloured and had bought a new dress. Because I cancelled the date, she said I should pay her back.

I emailed her back and said I never got to avail of any of those things and that I didn’t ask her to do that in the first place.
She replied calling me some pretty nasty words and then she blocked me.

I told my cousin, but she just said it was my own fault for being so fussy and that no girl is going to be happy to be rejected before a conversation has taken place.

Was I wrong to be honest with this girl?

Massi says, It is better that you were honest with this girl rather than sitting through a date that you were inwardly uncomfortable with.

However, I would advise you to take a more comprehensive approach to dating.

Whilst physical attraction is important, so too is an emotional connection.

You won’t be able to achieve that purely from looking at a woman’s appearance.

Although it is surprising that the woman in question was expecting you to pay for her preparation for the date, that seems to be an indignant reaction from her to being turned away without being given a fair chance by you.

Utilise a little more tact in future and try and be more gentle in your delivery.