Dear Massi, I was on my way home from work and I noticed my husbands car parked up in McDonalds so I decided to go and surprise him and say hello but I was shocked when I caught him with a cheeseburger in his mouth.

He gave me a big lecture in the morning as to why we should fast and now he has done this I feel like he is being so hypocritical and the fact that he is eating haram food makes it even worse.

He acts all shareef in front of his family and they always praise him and they tell me I should be more shareef like him. I am so angry and want to expose his true colours but I don’t know whether I should or not as this may end our relationship.

What should I do?

Massi says, It is understandable that you were shocked to see your husband in that manner considering his religious views.

Although your angry reaction is in response to his stance towards you, try not to approach him in a combative way.

When discussing religion, emotions can become heightened and people very often overlook their own actions.

Talk to your husband and explain that if he is eating this kind of food in his own time, he should not be putting pressure on you to behave a certain way.

Rather than threatening to ‘expose’ him, tell him that in matters of religion everyone is responsible for their own actions., therefore he should not coerce you to do anything that doesn’t come naturally to you.