Dear Massi, I am a married man and got to know a woman from work and one thing led to another and we ended up going to a hotel.

Everything was fine for a few weeks and we would regularly meet. I think it was the thrill more than anything else.

But once we were in the hotel and she ended up eating from the mini-bar. 

The bill came to £50 and I had to pay. I let it go once but she did it again recently. I told her I was paying for the room but she said she gets hungry and needs to eat. 

We had a big argument over the money and I told I want the £35.12.

We have fallen out now and she has threatened to tell my wife of the affair. I hate going to work now? What shall I do?

Massi says, You seem to be more indignant about having to pay the money for the mini-bar charge rather than acknowledging the fact that you are cheating on your wife.

If you look at the gravity of your actions, quibbling over trivial amounts of money shows your inherent disrespect for both your wife and the woman you had an affair with.

You have shown no remorse for your actions.

You need to take some time to ask yourself what it is you want and why you are seeking ‘thrills’ outside your marriage.

If this woman is threatening to tell your wife about the affair, it would be better if your wife heard this from you directly, rather than the other woman.