Dear Massi, I’m having a few issues with my boyfriend recently. We keep arguing because I think he’s becoming too controlling. 

He doesn’t like me posting pictures on Instagram. He says I have too many male friends on Facebook. 

Now he’s hassling me to wear hijab. His wife doesn’t even wear hijab. 

He’s getting really possessive with me but he has a go at me when I tell him he spends too much money on his wife.
Shall I end things?

Massi says: In short, yes. Your whole relationship is based on hypocrisy. 

Your boyfriend and you are both being equally selfish and are ignoring the key issue here which is that he is married. 

Whilst you bemoan your boyfriend’s possessive stance, you have shown no remorse that you are having an affair with a married man.

Furthermore, it is rather brazen that your boyfriend feels he can cheat on his wife and dictate how his girlfriend should dress.

Take control of your life and understand that this undignified relationship will never become one where this man will treat you with respect.

By leaving this toxic relationship you can gain clarity and realise that you deserve far better than a cheating man.