Dear Massi, Very recently I discovered my husband has a profile on an Asian matrimonial website. 

I found out because my friend who is looking to get married said she saw a profile picture that looked like him.

When I checked his phone, I saw he was texting some women he had met through the website.

He was obviously pretending he was unmarried.

And he has been exchanging lots of half naked photos with the women. They are sending him dirty pictures.  He was sending the same pictures of his to all the women. 

When I first confronted him about the profile, he said his friend did it and used his picture.

So then I told him about the messages in his phone.

Then he admitted he had been flirting with other women. but in his defence, he says he never once met any of them, it was just a bit of harmless fun online. 

He says that if he hasn't slept with someone it doesn't count as cheating.

I was so angry, but I do believe that bit that he hasn't met any of the women as in the text messages when the women asked to meet him he made excuses saying he was away on business.

I made him sleep in the car for one night and then he went to his brother's house.

I let him come home now, but he is sleeping in the spare room.

He still thinks he hasn't done anything wrong. 

He said I should be grateful that he is loyal to me as most of his friends have cheated on their wives.

I don't care what his friends do, I don't want my husband sending naked pictures of himself to other women.

Massi says, Different people will hold varying and ambiguous beliefs when it comes to cheating.

However, if one is doing something that they feel the need to hide from their partner, that becomes an important issue to address.

Although your husband has not had physical relations outside of marriage, he has betrayed your trust by sending intimate pictures of himself to other women.

Furthermore, in his quest for 'harmless fun' he is misleading these other women and deceiving them too.

It is important to talk to your husband and explain how his actions have made you feel. 

Ask him how he would feel if he discovered you had been sending scantily clad images of yourself to several other men and would he be so forgiving in that instance.

By saying you should be grateful for his loyalty is disrespectful to you. 

Loyalty should be expected in a marriage as should mutual feelings of respect and this includes no secrets of this magnitude.

Explain to your husband that you are willing to move on from this episode if he can assure you such actions will not be repeated.