Dear Massi, I have asked a woman who does marriage matchmaking to look for someone for my son.
She introduced us to a family who seem to be a very good match.
We spoke on the phone a few times before we went to their house for dinner.
Everything was going smoothly and even my son and their daughter seems to get on well chatting.
But problem arose when dinner was served. The lady had counted two botees of meat for each person and only one chicken leg each.
Apparently this was some family custom?
There was plenty of sabzee and dahl but with meat they were being very kanjoos.
This one matter is now confusing for me and my husband.
We don't want a kanjoos bahoo.
Massi says, There are many factors to consider before two people decide they want to get married.
You say that your son and the woman in question seem to be getting on well with each other.
Focus on that rather than on quantities of food served. By inviting you to dinner, the family were extending a warm gesture and their intent was not to be frugal or offensive.
They may have their own customs or habits when it comes to dining that differ from what you are accustomed to.
Rather than scrutinising what really is trivial detail, look at the bigger picture which is the intention of marriage that you set out for in the first place.
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