Dear Massi, I met a guy on Tinder. We both liked the look of each other so we found each other on Instagram and started dm'ing each other .

It sort of progressed since then and we have been out on a few dates.

To be honest I was just enjoying the dating part, but his uncle saw us kissing one time we were out and told his parents.

Now he's freaking out and says his parents want to meet my parents to talk about a formal rishta.

I kind of think I might want to marry him, but then he told me that he told his parents we met at the mosque.

This makes me look at him in a whole different light. He's so scared of his parents and clearly has no balls. 

My parents have left it to me meet a guy as I am divorced.

He's pushing to have a meeting arranged really soon but I'm having doubts.

If he's such a wimp now, do you think it will get worse after marriage?


Massi says, It appears that you and this man have very different approaches when it comes to communication with family.

He may have withheld the truth about how you met out of fear that his parents may disapprove.

It seems that he is pushing for a marriage proposal to appease his parents.

You have yourself articulated that you are having doubts.

Marriage is not something to rush into, especially if you are questioning your compatibility with this man.

Explain your feelings to him clearly and tell him that you are not yet ready to make a commitment.