Dear Massi, Can you please help me. I was out with my boyfriend about a month ago.

At the end of the night we called a taxi but the taxi driver refused to let us in because I was wearing a short skirt and a revealing top. 

Then he started muttering in Punjabi about how shameless I am and that my parents should throw me out.

My boyfriend started shouting back at the taxi driver in Punjabi.

Anyway I took my boyfriend away and we got into another taxi.

The problem is that my parents told me a family want to come and see me for a rishta. 

My mum told me the guys name and showed me his photo, so I went to have a look at him on Facebook. 

I couldn’t believe it when I looked through his photo albums. He had loads of pictures with his parents and his dad is the same taxi driver from that night. 

I can’t forget because his has really strange streaks running through his beard.

How do I get out of this rishta meeting?


Massi says, Despite the circumstances around meeting the father of the man you are due to meet, I must ask why you are willing to meet another man when you already have a boyfriend.

If you are not serious about meeting this man and his family for a purpose, then tell your parents that you are not ready for marriage. 

You have not suggested that you are unwilling to meet this family.

If you do feel obliged to meet the family, try and act normal. It is likely that the father may not even recognise you.

However, before entertaining another family for the purpose of marriage, ask yourself what it is you want.