Dear Massi, I don't know what to do. I found out a year ago that my husband was having an affair. 

When I confronted him, he promised he would stop and said the affair was a big mistake.

Last month his girlfriend turned up at my front door with a huge pregnant belly.

She was crying and told me that she had to tell me about the pregnancy because he refused to and she could see no other way. I almost fell sorry for her.

My husband and I have three children. He clearly won't leave her.

I threw him out of the house and he has now moved in with her.

But when I told him I want a talaq, he said he won't divorce me.

What shall I do?

Massi Says, To be quite  blunt your husband seems to want his cake and eat it.

Your husband has been very selfish and his actions have had consequences for two women.

He blatantly lied to you about his extramarital affair and now expects you to accept the circumstances.

You have legal rights. You need to seek legal counsel to become better informed and educated about the law so you know distinctly where you stand.

As you have three children too, you will need to determine what is the best course of action to take so as to  not cause undue disruption and emotional upheaval to them.

Whether you seek an Islamic divorce or a civil divorce, you need to take control and learn about your options by speaking to a solicitor.

This is a very difficult time for you and  it is important that you do what is best for you and your children.