Dear Massi, I'm only married three months, but things are going downhill.

It's not the same as when we were engaged.

She used to be so attentive and loving. She used to make so much effort getting ready and looking beautiful for me.

Now she only waxes if she is wearing a revealing outfit.

We were supposed to go out one night but plans were cancelled. All she was concerned with was wasting a face full of makeup.

So she took a whole bunch of selfies in different rooms of the house and changed her outfit about 10 times and said she had enough photos to post on Instagram for the next two weeks.

I thought we had a lot in common but she only seems interested in how many likes she gets on her social media posts.

When we were engaged she said she wanted to work after the wedding.  Now she says she doesn't want to look for a job as she wants to concentrate on having a baby.

A bit difficult that seeing as she hasn't slept with me in three weeks.

We argue a lot over small things like who left the light on or the window open.

She used to call my mum everyday before the wedding, but now she refuses to visit her.

It's like my wife was a completely different person when we were engaged.

I think I made a mistake in marrying her.

We only had a nikah and not a civil ceremony so it would be quick enough to get a divorce. 

Massi says, The realities of marriage and living day to day with someone are often very different to how one imagines it when engaged.

Marriage requires communication and compromise.

You say you feel your wife has changed. It may be likely that she feels the same way about you.

Talk to your wife and express your concerns directly to her in a non combative way.

Perhaps she too is feeling disillusioned about married life.

Before contemplating divorce, speak to each other and talk about what it is you both want from a future together.

If you think you can't salvage what you have in your marriage, talk to your wife about your options.