Dear Massi, Our family friends are always gossiping about other people’s business.

They are religious and I don’t have an issue with that. 

But they make comments about people’s sons and daughters and how ‘un-Islamic’ everything is.

Recently, I have found out their daughter is going out with one of my friends.

She also drinks alcohol but at home pretends to be all religious.

The dad though doesn’t know what is going on.

He came to our house recently and told my dad I should get a proper haircut as it was haram to have one part of the hair longer than the other.

It really got me angry. Should I tell my dad about his daughter? 

What if he doesn’t believe me?

Massi Says, When it comes to religious values and moral conduct, it is often much easier to point out other people’s flaws than to notice our own.

Whilst you disapprove of the gossip that your parent’s friends engage in, it would contradict your stance by gossiping about their daughter.

Whether she drinks or not, whether she has a boyfriend or not, it is not your place to discuss her private life simply to get back at her parents.

Tell your parents that you find the conversation of their friend’s inappropriate and that gossiping about other people is not in keeping with the religious values they claim to purport.

Aside from that, try and avoid being in their presence if they begin talking about other people, as it will only challenge your patience.