Dear Massi, I live with my in-laws. My father-in-law has an awful habit of walking around in his boxers and no vest.
I get that he's old, and he should be allowed to be comfortable. I just find it really inappropriate.
I can't bring myself to sit next to him on the sofa.
My husband doesn't understand why I get squeamish about it.
My mother-in-law doesn't say anything about it either.
Once he was eating dinner and spilled a bit of salan on his leg. He just wiped it off his leg with the roti and carried on as normal.
I've been trying to find a religious argument to use, but I can't find one.
Do you know how I can get him to cover up?
Massi Says, As uncomfortable as your are feeling about your father-in-law's sartorial choice, there is very little you can do about this.
You are living in your in-law's home, and as you rightly said, your father-in-law is older, therefore, should be able to dress in a way that allows him to be comfortable.
Your mother-in-law and husband do not see this as a problem as it seems that they are accustomed to it and it is the norm.
Every home and family has their own routine and idiosyncrasy.
Instead of seeing this as a problem, just think of it as something harmless.
Try and focus your attention elsewhere rather than on your father-in-law and his boxers.