Dear Massi, My boyfriend is getting really stressed out because his wife is forcing him to fast.

He says he hates the fasting and says he can't function at work properly.

He says he is only fasting because his wife makes him do it. 

He said she also forces him to pray and to go out to the mosque every night in Ramadan.

She actually drops him to the mosque and waits in the car until he is finished.

He says he sits in the back row while she thinks he is praying but he is texting me.

But then she checked her WhatsApp and saw that he was online when he was supposed to be praying, so now he doesn't text me at that time.

I only know basic stuff about Islam, but I thought there was no compulsion in religion, and that fasting and praying if you are forced is pretty much a void effort?

Massi Says, Although your tone is one of sympathy for your boyfriend, you have shown no remorse for that fact that you are having an affair with a married man.

I think you need to take a long hard long at yourself too!

If your boyfriend feels coerced into fasting because of his wife, it is rather feeble that he is complaining to you about it rather than actually speaking to his wife about his thoughts.

It seems that your boyfriend has taken the easy way out by conceding to his wife's demands, but whingeing about her behind her back.

This undignified relationship he has on embarked on with you seems to be one of convenience on his part, showing his lack of gumption.

It takes more courage to confront an uncomfortable domestic situation than to run to you for comfort behind closed doors.

My advice is to take a step back from this relationship and ask your so-called 'boyfriend' to take some time to think about what he wants.

Rather than feeling sorry for him and his interpretation of his marriage, understand that your boyfriend is leading a double life and using you in the process.