Dear Massi, Me and husband have moved into my parent’s house to save up some money before we look for own place.

We can’t move into his parents house as they live quite far away from work.
We’re looking at staying with my parents for about 18 months.

In our culture, people can’t seem to accept the son-in-law living with his in-laws.
Some of our family friends have started making rude comments. 

They’re saying my husband is not a ‘real man’ because he has turned to my family for help.

One of the aunty’s invited me and my mum to a mehndi, and as a joke she said we should bring my husband and have mehndi put on his hands as he is like a ‘new bahoo.’

I was so insulted even though she laughed it off as a joke.

My mum tells me to be quiet, but I’m not sure I can tolerate another year or so of this.

Massi Says, Whilst some people hold onto certain cultural expectations, the reality is that times have changed. 

This is reflected in personal finances.

It is becoming increasingly expensive and more challenging to own a house, with renting or moving in with parents being considered as a more feasible option.

Rather than pay heed to other people’s unsolicited comments, focus your attention on your own future goals.

As you said, you can save up a valuable amount of money during the time that you live in your parent’s house.

Ultimately, you cannot stop people from gossiping about things that do not concern them.
However, you can stop yourself from being affected by mindless gossip by ignoring people who engage in this.