I'm sorry for once being so blunt but it essentially how many Muslims feel at the moment The idea that young Muslims are being radicalised in their homes, their schools, their mosques and almost anywhere else seems to be a common theme among many arguments of late.

But the real issue is that many Muslims do not feel British.

And the reason we don’t feel British is because we don’t feel accepted.

I was born and brought-up in this country but if you asked me fifteen years ago if I felt British I would have answered ‘yes’. Now, I am more likely to say I am Muslim.

This despite the fact that I am not necessarily a very good Muslim. I am not a strict Muslim. I am an average Muslim and being British has no real value to me.

I have no affiliation with the land of my forefathers and deep down I have a disdain for the Arab nations and for the way they treat their minorities.

You might say that I became spoilt with my Britishness and then it came and stabbed me in the back when I needed it most.

Now, I don;t want anyone to roll out the red carpet and treat me special I just don;t want to be told at every other turn that radicalisation has something with being 'not being British enough'.

I have become accustomed to watching TV reports about Muslims on a daily basis and there is this false sense that we can be British and Muslim.

Let us stop kidding ourselves . We are being told over and over again how and what makes an extremist. Then we are encouraged to denounce this new made-up word ‘Islamists’.

Radicalisation has to do with condemning this violent ideology that is seeping through every part of our culture and religion.

The simple fact that many articles and debates have missed is this notion that the average Muslim does not actually feel British. No amount of citizenship courses and notions of patriotism is going to change that.

I say this because of the way we Muslims are perceived in the mainstream media . There is actually a feeling of hopelessness now. And I do sense that there are elements who revel in the fact of making us feel less British at every opportunity.

This didn’t happen overnight though did it? Many of us born here are proud to live here but we are becoming less and less loyal to the country.These are not the words that some people would like to hear..but these are the honest words. It doesn't have much to do with foreign policy either.

As a Muslim I could continue to boast about my Britishness at every opportunity. I could make it my intention to denounce terrorism on a daily basis and be the most patriotic person in my community.

I could also condemn every single crime perpetrated by people I have no real connection with. If need be I could let go of many of my cultural hang-ups and behave like a ‘true Brit’ whatever that may be.

But it makes no difference does it really?

When I was growing-up my father once said that no matter what happens to you this country regardless of how far you have come you will always be P***. I thought about those words a lot and for many years I would think there was a future in making others in my community think that Britishness had something to offer.

You could be both I felt. It was possible to British and Muslim at the same time and there is hope in this land which our forefathers travelled too all those years ago.

But in recent years I have come to realise that the two are not acceptable to large sections of the mainstream media.

We are and always be the 'P***s' regardless of our backgrounds.

And this, not the issue of radicalisation is what this government, the policy makers, the political commentators need to acknowledge.

You can sell Britishness for all its worth to all our children but if is not going to make any difference to them then why should they and will they ever bother?